Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Looking Ahead Is Easy, But Moving Forward? Not So Much. Here's How...

Starting anew can be hard.  What will 2014 bring?

Happy New Year! Everyone is talking about moving forward, starting anew, embracing the upcoming year. All good stuff, but how do you let go of past baggage? Here are a few suggestions that might help:

  1. Acknowledge the negatives without dwelling on them. Fixating on the bad stuff doesn't do any good and, in fact, can lead to a host of physical and emotional ailments. Bad stuff happens to everyone; I find that fact really helpful because it means that others have gone through what I've been through and they've moved on, just as I will. Acknowledge the issue or circumstance, evaluate it to see what can be learned, and be prepared to go forward. DO NOT give yourself permission to wallow in the negatives. Overeating, drinking, etc. will not benefit yourself or anyone else.
  1. Figure out what you need to do to move on and what you hope to accomplish. If you're getting over someone leaving your life (and it doesn't have to be a lover – it could be a family member or friend), maybe you need to expand your horizons and meet new people. Losing a job means finding another job or, perhaps, finding another vocation. Look at what others have done if you can't figure out what the next step should be.

  2. Get busy. There's a saying that “idle hands are the devil's workshop” and that goes for idle minds as well. Take a class, meet with friends, volunteer, exercise, or even clean the house. Just make sure you're active.

  3. Don't complain. Or just complain once, briefly, when you're alone, then stop. Keep things positive, not only with those around you but in your head. Every time you find yourself thinking a negative, replace it with a positive. There's a lot of value in the concept “fake it till you make it.” Be grateful for what you have.
  4. Be realistic and cut yourself some slack. You didn't gain a ton of weight, build a relationship, or hit a roadblock in your career path overnight, so give yourself some time to get back on the right path. Be patient with yourself, but still make progress. Step outside your situation and look at yourself as you would look at a friend.

I found some really good quotes, not the touchy-feely kind that make me want to barf, here at And my family has found a lot of wisdom in the 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People book y Stephen R. Covey. You don't have to buy this book, however. Just go to the site to find out what the habits are and how they might be of value to you.  

Please check in with me in a day or so when I'll be reviewing, in depth, some of the best presents we received over the holidays. I was surprised that some of the least expensive were the best.  And as always...



Note:  The photo above is of a sculpture done by the brilliant artist Nathan Sawaya.  To find out more about this incredibly talented guy, visit  You'll never look at Lego the same way again!

1 comment:

  1. Change is hard. Thanks for the tips!


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